Got Jealous?
Dec 18th, 2009 by
Do you have one (or more!) animal who is jealous of another? Always jockeying for first in line for the pats and treats? You can use your intuitive skills to address and extinguish that behavior. First have a talk with the jealous animal, you can do this out loud or through sending thoughts. I find talking out loud easier. Remember, you don’t have to worry how an animal receives, let them take care of that,  or leave it to what I call the universal translator box. Just assume, for the sake of experimentation, that they understand everything just as a human would.
 (A short aside: there are communicators who insist that you must talk to animals only using images you form mentally. They insist that animals can’t understand any other way. Balderdash and poppycock. I see that that as just another example of people claiming to be more adept, more [substitute any good quality or ability] than animals. It’s utter nonsense, not borne out by all the intuitive communication experiments people have done, and it’s high time that notion is retired!)
In your talk, explain to the animal how you feel about the jealous behavior, what you want instead, and how you feel about each animal involved (i.e., you love each uniquely – explain how and why in detail). Then do go ahead and use an image by making a mental movie of your ideal for how you would like the animals to get along. Explain how happy that would make you.
Observe their behavior. Correct if there is aggression etc., but more importantly, notice any improvement, or shift toward the positive and make a really big deal about it. Not so much in terms of treats, but more along the lines of what you would say to a friend or relative who was acting better and nicer. I like to tell them they are brilliant – seems to go over well.
These and more suggestions for using intuition in modifying bad behavior are in my most recent book, Ask Your Animal. If you read the book already and liked it, it would be great if you could review it on amazon.com.
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 I’m surprised I haven’t seen this yet driving around my neighborhood! Sad but true.
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Great ideas! Animals definitely can understand when you explain things to them in words. I do that all the time with my dogs and they get it. I do feel a little embarrassed sometimes, though, when I do it in public because I know I am getting some strange looks from people. I actually have had people ask me “Do you think they really understand you?” I can say whole heartedly that they do. Maybe it is those little things that will help people see animals as intelligent as they are, and nothing something to be “owned.”
Marta
You hit it on the head, that animals understand when we just talk to them. I was talking with my dog about a recent break-up with a man in my life that she liked very much. I was driving and she was in the back seat. I told her what happened and that he would not be coming around any more, and then I elaborated more. And then I started to tell her again, since I wanted to make sure she understood. As I began again I heard her say “all right already, I get it, I heard it the first time”. I had to laugh out loud. Here I was trying to make her feel better about it, and since animals are coming from unconditional love they get it, and they get over it quicker than I do for sure. I also got that she was not surprised that we broke up, with her relaxed attitude about the whole thing. I love talking to animals, just like I talk to my girlfriends.
I allways talk with my owm animals, and also always suggest to everyone to do so as well. What if people look at you, let them.
This is a great suggestion, Marta, as you know I have some “jealousy issues” in my pack. LOL Now with the new kittens coming up on 4 months old, integreting them into the rest of the pack in the house is in the process stages. And I find I get better results when I actually verbalize my thoughts to everyone as well.
Great suggestions, Marta! As you know, I have some “jealousy issues” in my pack already, and now with the kittens hitting 4 months old and needing to integrate THEM into the pack, this will be helpful. And I find that verbalizing my conversation to them seems to get me better results than just thinking or visualizing it. Will let you now how it works out. LOL
I’m a big advocate of saying “Thank you” to pets that are cooperating. I don’t think they get thanked enough, and I really believe that it helps. They appreciate the acknowledgement.